This week I’ve been reading Gretchen Rubin’s new book ‘Better than Before’ which is a guide for how to help embed good habits (such as painting regularly) into our lives.
Gretchen explains that key to working out how best to do this (like so many things!) is to KNOW YOURSELF.
And to that end she has identified the ‘four tendencies’ which distinguish the way people respond to expectations: outer expectations (a deadline) and inner expectations (“I will paint twice a week”).
Here’s Gretchen explaining those tendencies and what they mean for good-habit-forming:
So in a nutshell,
- Upholders respond willingly to outer and inner expectations (I’m an Upholder with some Questioner tendencies!) Here’s Gretchen on Upholders:
- Questioners question all expectations; they’ll meet an expectation if they think it makes sense–essentially, they make all expectations into inner expectations.
- Obligers meet outer expectations, but struggle to meet expectations they impose on themselves.
- Rebels resist all expectations, outer and inner alike.
Take the Quiz!
Gretchen’s set up a nifty little Quiz so you can find out which tendency is you. You can take it here
More to come
In the coming weeks I’ll share a few insights as to how we can use this self-knowledge to our advantage when it comes to sticking to that painting habit!
In the meantime, which are you? Do let me know in the comments below!